[To read Zoli's previous blog about the damaging effects on porn and how it points to our ultimate need for God, click here. If you'd like to continue the conversation about biblical sexuality, join us at the church this Saturday and next, on May 6 & 13 at 9:30am for our "Navigating a Sexually Explicit World" workshops with Journey Canada.]
On April 29th about 30 people gathered at Redemption Church to watch the documentary “Over 18”. After the movie finished, we showed a short video of frequently asked questions that the producers had faced as they promoted this documentary last year. They answered such questions as; What can parents do? What if you have a porn addiction? What is it like to interview a porn star? They answered each question with wisdom and grace. All the feedback I have received so far was one of gratitude that we took the initiative to show this film. It certainly informed and helped us all take notice of what is going on right under our noses on the internet. While the film did not hold back about the truth of this issue, it also offered hope for us as people of God that truly evil does not have the last word on this or any subject. Jesus always has the last word, as he said in the gospel of John: “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33b)
A number of resources were mentioned at the end of the evening. So, with the intention of helping both those who attended the screening and those who did not, the following is a list of some of the helps that can be found.
For starters, this film is still being shown around the lower mainland and around the world. If you were unable to attend and would still like to see the documentary check the following page for screenings.
For more info on this subject the following books are recommended reads:
- Gail Dines: “Pornland: How Porn has Hijacked Our Sexuality” (available at the VPL)
- Ogi Ogas & Sai Gaddam: “A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships” (available at the VPL). You Tube link: https://youtu.be/sPJQbB2o8Es
- Gary Wilson: “Your Brain on Porn” (n/a at the VPL)
- William M. Struthers: “Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain” (n/a at the VPL). You Tube link: https://youtu.be/sWXqSFuIXSc
The following are resources for those struggling with porn addiction:
- Fight The New Drug Ministries
- Nate Larkin’s Ministry - Book: “Samson and the Pirate Monks”
- XXXChurch Ministry
- Fortify Program
- RTribe Social Recovery App for Addiction
- Accountability Software - Covenant Eyes
Resources for parents:
- Kids Wifi - A separate wifi system for children that actively blocks inappropriate sites.
- Great Books:
- Kirsten A. Jensen & Gail Poyner: “Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn Proofing Today’s Young Kids”
- Educate Empower Kids: “How To Talk To Your Kids About Pornography”
- The Guideline: A Parent’s Guide To Addressing Pornography With Children
- By Fight The New Drug (free download pdf)
The above is just a start, but a good start. My prayer is that we, as the church, will help one another throw off those things that hinder us and others, and the sin that so easily entangles us. And run the race that is before us both as individuals and as a community. Encouraging each other to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Who for the joy set before him endured the cross scorning it’s shame, and sat down at the right hand of God. And that we will continually consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that we will not grow weary and lose heart. (Hebrews 12:1-3).
Zoltan Laszlo Miklos has been attending Redemption for a long time. He started following Jesus in his last year of high school. When he is not at church he can be seen riding his bicycle to work wearing some bright orange shorts - which is his wife Cheryl’s favourite colour. When he is at work he has tried to subdue the earth by beating it with the 46,000 landings (+/- 100 but who's counting) of the various airplanes he has flown over the years. It has not worked yet but he keeps on trying.